Monday, December 22, 2014


Trying To Get Pregnant During The Holidays?  Use Mistletoe!

 I don't think I've actually ever seen real mistletoe.  I've seen people decorate with fake mistletoe (i.e. hanging over doorways etc.), but never the real thing.  Since Christmas is right around the corner, I thought this article would be of interest.
 Did you know mistletoe has been associated with fertility? I guess it just makes sense, if you get kissed, it could lead to other things. Read more:


Fancy a snog under the mistletoe this Christmas?
Could those little white berries cast a spell on you?
We all look for the mistletoe when we see our heart throb at the Christmas party. But is there true magic in those berries?

The Druids thought so... those juicy little sprigs were not just a symbol of romance but also fertility! You might want to think twice before you agree to that sweaty clinch this year unless you want to hear the patter of tiny feet.

The man who's become the ambassador for mistletoe, Stanley Yapp, is known for his big bunches and has sent them all over the world.

"It's all part of the mystery... you still can't walk into a garden centre and buy a mistletoe tree.

"After thousands of years we still rely on a little bird doing it's job... it eats the berries and secures it's future," said Stan.

So our Christmas snogs rely on a birdy's do-do's!

Gloucestershire is well known for it's bumper crops of mistletoe. At this time of year, farmers are turning up at the farm shops selling their wares.

And the good thing is, it stays in pucker nick for months. So one little sprig can guarantee you at least a dozen smackers on the lips. Plenty of time to decide if you want another go.


Saturday, December 20, 2014


When you're having trouble getting pregnant, holidays like this one can be excruciatingly painful. I recall a time when I was trying to concieve, I got the stomach flu the night before a big family holiday dinner. I was sick but happy that I didn't have to attend.

I felt like an alien from another planet. Somehow I was given this body that couldn't reproduce! It seemed so natural and easy for everyone else. I always felt that people were wondering what's wrong with me. Now that I have the benefit of hindsight, I realize that I projected my own feelings on to others. They didn't obsess on my reproductive physiology half as much as I did (if at all).


One of the best ways I found to deal with holidays or other times when I was feeling left out, is I would remember that it will be my turn one day. I always held firm to that belief. If I saw the cute little kids dressed up in their holiday clothes happily participating in all the festivities I would smile and imagine how cute my kid is going to look some day. Instead of being angry and jealous, it helps to join in. It's easier to do this with kids because they don't ask those probing questions about getting pregnant, etc. If you want to attract something into your life, you need to see yourself as already having it (and behave as if you already have it). Kids attract kids. You may think this process would be too painful, but once I realized how I manifest what I want in my life, it changed my thinking. It gave me hope. 

Thursday, December 18, 2014


I know that many of my readers come from different religious backgrounds and beliefs.  I find, however that even if you are not of a particular faith, there can be helpful aspects of learning about their beliefs and writings.  I grew up Catholic and did not do a lot of bible reading.  However, here is a guest post from a woman who helps women and couples with infertility from a biblical perspective:




Tuesday, December 16, 2014


Pregnancy Over 40 and Preconception Communication

I have written before about something call preconception communication where you receive some kind of visit or communication from your yet to be born or conceived child (see my previous post here: Preconception Communication)

I've been watching a show  called "Celebrity Ghost Stories" which used to be on the biography network, but is now on the Lifetime Movie Network.  It is a very interesting series of stories told by different celebrities about their paranormal experiences.
 One epsiode had Tracey Gold and she told the story of how she kept seeing a little boy and then subsequently had the feeling that she had to get pregnant again. She is sure this vision of the little boy was her youngest son who was conceived and born shortly thereafter.

 So if you continuously see or dream about a child, this may be a good sign! Be sure to be an open vessel and invite this child into your life.


Sunday, December 14, 2014


 What Yoga Poses Help Fertility and Getting Pregnant?

Here is a summary of some of the yoga poses which can benefit the reproductive system:
1. The Bridge Pose - the bridge stimulates abdominal organs and can relieve menstrual discomfort if done regularly. It calms the brain and can help with stress. Start by lying on the floor. Bend your knees, put your fee flat on the floor as close to your sit bones as possible. Bring your buttocks up until you form a bridge and bring your hands together clasped underneath you.
2. The Cobbler's Pose - this pose also stimulates abdominal organs, ovaries and is thought to be a natural remedy for infertility. Sit on the floor, bend your knees and let them lay out to the side. Bring your feet together and hold the toes or ankles with your hands.
3. The Lotus pose - this pose stimulates the pelvis, spine, abdomen and bladder. It can help ease the pain of childbirth if done throughout pregnancy. This pose starts by sitting cross legged on the floor. Slowly bring one foot on top of your thigh then the other foot on top of the other thigh. If this is painful, you may stay seated cross legged. Bring your thumb and middle fingers together and rest on your knees
4. The Reclining Hero pose - this pose probably needs to be done with support (a bolster pillow can be used along the length of your back). The reclining hero pose helps open up and stretch the abdomen and it can ease menstrual pain. This pose begins by kneeling then sitting down between your feet then slowly reclining down until you are laying on the floor. This is an intermediate pose and you may need additional support with a second pillow on your back until you become more experienced.
In my DVD, "Fertility Bodywork" (available at get I demonstrate these yoga poses among others and I also have a segment on fertility pelvic massage, acupressure and reflexology and daily routines which help increase pelvic circulation and oxygenation. All of these fertility enhancing techniques can be done by yourself in the privacy of your own home without the services of a paid professional.
For more on Fertility Bodywork, click here

Friday, December 12, 2014


What are castor oil packs? Can you make your own?

Castor oil, when used on the skin (externally) will absorb and it is thought to help detoxify the body.  Castor oil increase lymphocytes which remove toxins from your body.  They also can help increase circulation and decrease inflammation.  Here is one of my videos on how to make your own:

If you prefer to buy pre-made castor oil packs, click here:

Wednesday, December 10, 2014


Guaifenesin Cough Syrup For Cervical Mucus

I remember hearing about taking a certain type of cough syrup to help with cervical mucus and I actually did try it. I'm not sure if it helped or not because I had stopped using it when I got pregnant with my daughter. But for anyone interested, this article explains how cough syrup can help (please note, the article mentions "Robitussin", however, the active ingredient is Guaifenesin which may be found in many other over-the-counter cough medicines):


How does Robitussin improve cervical mucus?
Robitussin is an expectorant, which means it helps thin out the mucus in your lungs.  This helps with coughing because it is easier to clear the mucus out of your lungs when you cough if the mucus is thinner.  What’s nice about Robitussin is that it doesn’t just work on the mucus produced in your lungs, it also helps thin out cervical mucus.  Thinner mucus is better for sperm and may improve your chances of getting pregnant.
When should you take Robitussin?
The best time to take Robitussin is about 5 days before you expect to ovulate and also on the day of ovulation.  If you are using OPKs (or ovulation prediction kits) continue taking until 2 to 3 days after your have had a positive OPK.  The recommended dosage is two teaspoons taken orally three times a day.

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Monday, December 08, 2014


Pregnancy Over 40, Many Women Still Very Fertile

I've written before about how doctors, the media, and society in general seems to think that if you're over 40 you'd better run not walk to the closest fertility clinic because time is running out.
 This message may be creating a new problem: unplanned pregnancies in "older" women. If you've been following my blogs, you probably saw that I, myself, got pregnant completely by surprise at the age of 49 (but miscarried). The FPA which is an organization that provides education and assistance on sexual health and birth control options in the UK is starting an awareness campaign about this very problem. Of course, if you're trying to conceive, this may be good may not be as tough as you think. Read more from:


From the site:

“Whilst the message about fertility declining with age is an important one, it is often overplayed, alongside disproportionate messaging about unplanned teenage pregnancies. It sends an inaccurate message to women and society that only the young fall pregnant and is leading older women to believe their fertility has gone long before it actually has”.

“Unplanned pregnancies at any age are very difficult” she continued.

“For the last 80 years, FPA has been helping women plan and prevent pregnancies. It’s important that women realise it’s entirely conceivable that just one night of unprotected sex in your late 30s, 40s, even 50s can end in an unplanned pregnancy. Our helpline receives calls from such women, shocked this has happened to them. They thought their age would protect them from becoming pregnant.

Saturday, December 06, 2014



First, let me say that most couples who are experiencing the heartbreak and frustration of infertility would welcome a baby of any gender.  I used to jokingly say that I would gladly accept a boy, a girl or an alien when I was trying to conceive.  But there are many couples who do seem to have a strong desire for one gender over another.  That has led to a lot of speculation about whether or not there are things you can do to encourage conception of a girl or a boy.  There are many experts out there that say your chances of a boy or girl are the same as they always have been....50/50.  But those that believe you can tip the odds of having a girl in your favor think that creating a more acidic environment in your cervical mucus will encourage conception of a female.  The reasoning here is that sperm that create girls are heartier and and survive the acidic environment better than sperm that create boys.  The problem?  If you are having trouble conceiving....creating an acidic environment may hurt your chances of getting pregnant at all.  In general, it is believed that an alkaline environment is best to get pregnant.
Read more (including examples of acidic and alkaline foods):


Thursday, December 04, 2014


If you are trying to conceive, I'm sure you are aware that there are food that can help you get pregnant.  However, there are some superstars that are a bit unusual that may not be readily available in your local grocery store.  Here are some you might try:
  • Bee Pollen and Royal Jelly - these are super concentrated food that include many essentials for a complete explanation and description of bee pollen and royal jelly, click here
  • Maca - grows in the Andes region and is also called Peruvian Genseng  it is known as a fertility enhancer by increasing sperm count in men and increases female fertility because is it high in iron and it helps to regulate hormones by working on the pituitary gland and assisting with the proper balance of estrogen and progesterone.
  • Acai Berry - this is thought to increase egg quality (studies are currently underway in humans, but it has shown to help egg quality in animals).  Acai helps with sleep which is also important for women to regulate their cycles.  It fights free radicals and its fiber helps to detoxify the body.

  • Spirulina - helps with egg quality and hormone production, it is also a powerful anti-inflammatory. See my post about spirulina here.


    Tuesday, December 02, 2014


    Get Pregnant Naturally, This Woman Did At 45!

    I thought I would re-post this story I did back in 2011 about a women who contacted me from the "blogosphere" who had three children over the age of 40.  Read more:
    I heard from a woman who suffered from "infertility" when she tried to conceive in her 30's.
     She then proceeds to have three children naturally over the age of 40 (her last when she was 45!) I asked if I could share her story to give my blog readers proof that some women are more fertile in their 40's than their younger years.


     She also has a long-term perspective of parenting over 40 since her oldest child is now 18. Read more from Dorothy Handelman:
    Dorothy Handelman and Family

    Prior to turning 40, my future as a mother was uncertain. I had had a failed pregnancy that was accomplished with the assistance of a noted fertility expert in New York. So, I was not optimistic that I had the time or the ability to have the children that I desired. When my marriage of 2 ½ years came to an abrupt end, I remember telling my mother that I felt like “my life was over”. Trying to console me, she thought that “a few more things were going to happen to me.”

    Returning to the dating pool as a divorcee I didn’t realize that possibilities even existed. I met a great a guy and found myself pregnant at 40, 43 and 45 without any fertlity assistance. Motherhood over 40 has many blessings and many challenges. Along the way I have mostly had the patience required for my children but not always the energy to ride bikes all day or climb mountains. Our three kids (now 18, 15, and 13) are fine, happy and able bodied and their dad and I are very grateful that we have created this family.

    Turning 40, I was very hopeless that I would have any children as the experts painted a very pessimistic image of an older woman’s chances of conception. But, sometimes the experts have it all wrong.

    To read Dorothy's blog, click here:

    curb appeal in sleepy hollow

    Sunday, November 30, 2014


    I frequently post articles about foods for fertility and I have a whole section on my website ( on foods and recipes to help you get pregnant.  But, much to my surprise, the healthiest vegetable from a study performed by the center for disease control (CDC) is none other than watercress!  If you don't know a lot about watercress, you are probably not alone.  It is a cruciferous vegetable (like broccoli), but it outranks all others (Calculated as the mean of percent daily values (DVs) (based on a 2,000 kcal/d diet) for 17 nutrients (potassium, fiber, protein, calcium, iron, thiamin, riboflavin, niacin, folate, zinc, and vitamins A, B6, B12, C, D, E, and K) as provided by 100 g of food, expressed per 100 kcal of food. Scores above 100 were capped at 100 (indicating that the food provides, on average, 100% DV of the qualifying nutrients per 100 kcal)

    So how can watercress help fertility?  Well, if you look at the nutrients that were used to calculate it's rating, most of them are good for fertility.  For example, protein for egg quality and hormone
    production, folate to prevent birth defects, zinc for sperm health, iron for ovulation (and essential for pregnancy), fiber to remove toxins and the list goes on. 


    Friday, November 28, 2014


    Fertility Cleanse with Spirulina, Great for Health and Pregnancy

    If you're feeling a bit bogged down after eating so much over the holiday, you might want to try spirulina as a meal substitute.  Spirulina is a natural algae and it is very high in protein.  It can benefit fertility in many ways:
    • Spirulina is a protein rich food which is needed for hormone production and high egg quality
    • Spirulina is high in the beneficial omega 3's which not only help with hormone production, but they have an overal anti-inflammatory affect on the body
    • Spirulina has chlorophyll which helps to detoxify  the body.  It can bind with heavy metals to remove them.
    • Spirulina is high in iron which has been shown to help with fertility and is very important should you become pregnant
    • Spirulina is high in B vitamins including folic acid which you should start taking before becoming pregnant to reduce the chance of birth defects
    • Spirulina is high in calcium which is important for pregnancy (it can have 26 times the amount of calcium in milk!)

      Wednesday, November 26, 2014


      • Turkey:  lean turkey meat is a great source of protein and iron.  Some protein is needed in your diet to help your body manufacture high quality eggs.  Iron  deficiency has been associated with ovulation problems and meat sources like turkey are the easiest for your body to absorb.

      • Sweet potatoes:  Sweet potatoes are high in vitamin C, B, and vitamin B6. These antioxidants protect against cell damage.  They have a positive affect on blood sugar and they are high in fiber which helps to eliminate toxins.  Read more about sweet potatoes here.

      • Leafy Green Salad or Cooked Greens -
      Kale is a superfood which is great for overall health. It's high in a number of vitamins and minerals which help to detoxify the body. Kale is also a great source of iron and calcium which is important for follicular development. Kale can help reduce inflammation in the body.
      Collard greens are also a nutritional powerhouse. They are high in fiber and essential nutrients all of which are good for fertility and hormone regulation.
      Learn more about making a fertility salad here and cooking greens here

      • Nuts:

      Nuts may not be part of the main course, but frequently nuts are  part of the appetizer portion of the meal.  If you can, eat non-roasted nuts as these have the natural beneficial oils perserved.  Almonds and walnuts are a great source of the good fats which help with hormone regulation and walnuts are helpful for women with PCOS

      • Pumpkin Pie:

      Okay, I know it's probably going to have some fat and sugar, but pumkins are a fertility power house. Pumpkins are a great source of B vitamins and folate which can help prevent birth defects.  Pumpkins are also a source of calcium and iron.  If you can preserve and eat the pumpkin seeds, even better!

      • Pumpkin seeds: These are great for mens fertility as they are high in zinc and essential fatty acids

      Have a wonderful, healthy and safe holiday!

      Monday, November 24, 2014



      I recall when I was trying to conceive, I wore quite a bit of orange because I had read that it was associated with fertility.  This is because the sacral chakra (as mentioned in the article below) "vibrates" at the rate of the color orange.  Confused?  This guest post explains more about how our bodies are made of energy and chakras:

      Introduction to the Chakra System

      Guest Post By Erika Cook

      The word chakra is a Sanskrit word meaning wheel or vortex, and it is referring to the many energy centers that our bodies are comprised of. These energy centers are not visible to the human eye; however there are many intuitive's that are able to see one's chakras in their mind's eye. There are hundreds of chakras in the human body; however it is only really necessary to focus on the 7 main chakras. These main chakras are lined up from the base of the spine to the top of the head. Each chakra has a particular color associated with it and represents certain aspects of your physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies.
      • Your 1st chakra, also called your root chakra, is located at the base of your spine and vibrates at the rate of the color red. The root chakra is your foundation chakra and enables you to get your basic needs met on earth such as food, shelter, and water. The physical aspect of this chakra includes the blood and nervous systems, the spine, bladder, and reproductive organs. An out of balance or blocked root chakra can cause inflammation, depression, lethargy, lack of confidence, and rage; just to name a few.


      • Moving up to just below the navel we find the 2nd chakra, or the sacral chakra. This chakra vibrates at the rate of the color orange and is associated with our ability to be creative, reproduction, and fertility (including being fertile with ideas, etc...). Physically the sacral chakra includes the skin, kidneys, mammary glands, and female reproductive system. An out of balance or blocked sacral chakra can cause skin problems such as rashes and acne, reproductive problems, lack of creativity, aggression, and emotional instability. It is this chakra that many people store those emotions that they have pushed down or not dealt with, so it is very easy for this chakra to become blocked.
      • Next, located below the ribs is the 3rd chakra or the solar plexus chakra. This chakra vibrates at the rate of the color yellow and is your source of inner power and self worth. The related organs to the solar plexus are the liver, spleen, stomach, and small intestine. Out of balance this chakra can cause digestive problems, diabetes, low self esteem, low energy, and confusion.
      • The 4th chakra or heart chakra is the bridge between the lower 3 chakras (earth) and the upper 3 chakra (spiritual). The heart chakra is located directly in the center of the chest and vibrates at the rate of the color green (most people think that the color is pink. but that is actually the opposite color of green on the color wheel). This chakra is all about love, self love and compassion and includes the heart and breasts, endocrine gland, and the thymus gland. Out of balance problems that can occur are heart disease, allergies, chronic fatigue syndrome, jealousy, moodiness, and indifference.
      • A the throat lies the 5th chakra or the throat chakra. The throat chakra vibrates at the rate of the color light blue and relates to speech, communication, and self expression. Related organs are the throat, lungs, and ears. Problems that can occur from an out of balance throat chakra are hearing problems, asthma, sore throats, thyroid problems, arrogance, and inconsistency.
      • Moving up to the center of the forehead is the 6th chakra or the third eye chakra (another name for this chakra is the brow chakra). This chakra vibrates at the rate of the color Indigo and is associated with one's mind and intuitive abilities. Related organs to this chakra are the eyes, lower head, and sinuses. Out of balance this chakra can cause migraines, visual defects, sinus problems, being scattered and disorganized, and an inability to trust your intuition.
      • The last chakra is the 7th chakra also called the crown chakra, which is located at the top of the head, and relates to self knowledge and spiritual awareness. This chakra vibrates at the rate of the color white which includes the full spectrum of colors. The related organ to the crown chakra is the brain. Some problems that can occur if out of balance are depression, many mental or psychological disorders, dizziness, lack of contact with reality, and no concern for others.
      There are endless reasons why your chakras can become unbalanced or blocked, and when one becomes clogged the flow of the whole system is interrupted. Taking good care of your chakra system will help to optimize your energy flow so that you can make the most out of your days. There are many simple techniques out there to keep your energy centers flowing and I urge you to use whichever one feels right to you.
      Erika Lyn Cook is a freelance writer and the author of the upcoming book Purple People - The Diary of an Indigo Child. This book is a memoir of her life, and takes you through a journey of exactly what it's like to live as an Indigo child. Erika is also a certified Angel Healer Practitioner, Reiki practitioner, a certified Chrystal Healer, and an I.E.T. Healer. For more information about her services or about her upcoming book visit her website at []
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      Saturday, November 22, 2014


      I came across a product that I thought was a wonderful idea and it looks pretty tasty too! It's called "Fertilishake". It has a wonderful blend of countless nutrients, probiotics, herbs, you name it. There is one for women and one for men. I'm not discounting the need for fresh fruits and vegetables, but this looks like a good idea for breakfast, especially if you're in a hurry. I love smoothies and if you are craving something sweet, its a great way to make your calories count.  You can add the fruits of your choice. Here is a list of the nutrition facts:

      Thursday, November 20, 2014



      On my website, I have a couple of pages which address detoxification of your body in preparation to conceive and detoxification of your environment. One simple but important way to “detoxify” your body is good old fashioned water.
      • First of all, drink plenty of water. This isn't earth shattering information, but when was the last time you actually drank plain old water....eight glasses a day? It's a simple way to remove toxins in the form of sweat and urine. Our skin is all over our body, and is our largest organ just think how many toxins could be sweated out (see number two below).
      • Sit in a steam room. Heat causes toxins to be released from cells into the lymphatic fluid from which sweat is made. The sweat releases the toxins. This can also be beneficial to your kidneys and liver since they will not have to work as hard to remove these toxins.
      • Drink salt water first thing in the morning. Dissolve two teaspoons of salt in a quart of water and drink on an empty stomach in the morning. This will draw toxins out from your digestive system and detoxify your colon.
      • Take an Epson salt bath
        Put two cups of Epson salt in a hot bath, do not use other soaps or shampoos. You may also want to add a cup of baking soda to neutralize other chemicals in your water.

      There are also a number of products on the market like for detoxification.


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