Tuesday, March 03, 2015


It seems like all the things we hear over and over for our general health also seem to apply to our reproductive health.  If you are trying to conceive, your partner may want to go easy on the saturated fats.
The type of fats you eat can affect fertility
Although the study demonstrating the link between dietary fat and poor sperm count was small, it still indicates that what men eat and what types of fat they eat is significant.

 I spend a lot of time talking about what women should be eating, however, what men eat may affect their fertility...specifically their sperm count.



 Sperm Count May Be Reduced By Saturated Fat
Saturated fat isn't very heart healthy and according to this article, it's not very sperm healthy either.   They types of fats that are good for sperm are the kinds found in fish and other foods like nuts and avocados that are high in the good fats. Read more:

From the article:

Researcher Dr Jill Attaman, said: 'We were able to demonstrate that in men who took in higher amounts of fats, such as saturated fat and monounsaturated fat, there was an association with decreased sperm concentration.

'But polyunsaturated fat - those seen in fish primarily - was associated with improved sperm morphology and motility.'

Morphology relates to the size and shape of the sperm and is an indicator of fertility.

The research was carried out on 91 men seeking fertility treatment but Dr Attaman said she would expect to see a 'similar pattern' in the general population, although this would need to be studied.

The men were asked how often they ate certain foods, what types of oil they used in cooking and baking and the types of margarine they consumed.

Of the group, 21 men also had levels of fatty acids in their sperm and semen measured.

Overall, those men in the highest saturated fat intake group took in 13 per cent of their daily calories as saturated fat, while those in the lowest third took in 8 per cent.

The study concluded: 'Men in the highest third of saturated fat intake had 41 per cent fewer sperm than those in the lowest third.

Saturday, February 28, 2015


Trying To Get Pregnant Over 40?  Start Laughing!

The old saying "laughter is the best medicine" may have something to it.
 I mention in my book that laughter has many healing benefits and when I was trying to conceive, I would make a point of watching the funny videos show. You can't help but laugh, even if you don't feel like it (that's when you need it the most).
This article talks about an IVF clinic who had a clown visit patients after their procedures had higher success rates. It may be worth a try! Read more:


This experimental prospective quasi-randomized study examining the impact of a medical clowning encounter after embryo transfer (ET) after in vitro fertilization (IVF) found that the pregnancy rate in the intervention group was 36.4%, compared with 20.2% in the control group (adjusted odds ratio, 2.67; 95% confidence interval, 1.36–5.24). Medical clowning as an adjunct to IVF-ET may have a beneficial effect on pregnancy rates and deserves further

Wednesday, February 25, 2015


Unexpected natural pregnancies in women over 40 - second only to teenagers

I have read and frequently written about how unexpected pregnancies in women over 40 is second only to teenagers.  I love to share stories of how women who think they're infertile because of their age get pregnant by surprise.

Since these women were stunned to become pregnant (since they've been conditioned to believe that they were "too old" to get pregnant and didn't use birth control), many pregnancies end in termination. This article seems to confirm that natural and spontaneous pregnancies in women over 40 is on the rise.
The reason I bring this article up here is because if you are trying to conceive, it just goes to show you that your chances may be higher than you think.
Read more:


Many older women, especially those who came off the contraceptive pill because of their age, were inclined to take chances with contraception, only to be "stunned" when they found themselves pregnant, she said...

...The government statistics disclose that the number of abortions for women aged 40 and over has risen by more than 30 per cent since 2000. In total, 8,179 women aged 40 and over terminated pregnancies last year – including more than 650 women above the age of 45, and 21 women aged 50 and over.  

Monday, February 23, 2015


Help Your Self To Conceive Over 40 With The Color Orange

When I was trying to conceive, I remember reading that the color orange is associated with fertility.
Wouldn't you know it, all of a sudden, my wardrobe started taking on a orange hue, a color I never would have thought of wearing in the past.  Somewhere along the line, it must have enhanced my fertility as I got pregnant naturally. Here is a site which explains the fertility chakra and its association with the color orange::

Deep within the fertility center of every woman, the color orange resides. A burning flame of heat, passion and warm intentions pulsates, the fertility chakra. Here, where our ovaries are located, we find our ability to birth new ideas and projects. Energy is stored below our naval. It acts like a filled gas tank.


When this chakra is open and working with the rest of the body, we feel energized and healthy. This chakra allows us to get into action and make our world that which we want it to be. When we focus our intentions at the area located below our naval, we can feel the fullness of this energy. We can attaché our intentions to this energy and begin to work for our dreams.

This part of the physical body is most often the strongest. We need this strength to stand erect. We need the strength of our lower back and torso to hold our bodies erect when we are tired or when we are sitting at attention. When our lower torso is weak it allows our entire physical body to become out of alignment.

Concentrating upon the lower physical torso with strengthening intentions is a first step toward developing healthy energy. When this portion of the body is physically healthy a healthy chakra can exist as well. Too often we think of the chakra as only an intangible energy. While the energy of the chakra is not a physical one, it does have the ability to affect the actual physical body. In turn, the actual physical body in the same manner can affect the chakra energy. 


Wednesday, February 18, 2015


I'm always amazed at the number of women who not only get pregnant over 40 naturally, but also women who get pregnant over 50 naturally.  What makes this case remarkable is  the woman in the story got pregnant by surprise at the age of 53, and she was on the pill at the time.  She also admits to a "once in a blue moon" love life!  What are the odds of that?  Her pregnancy had a fairytale ending too.  She carried to term and had a healthy baby after a natural delivery.  



At the time of her pregnancy she also had two grandchildren from her two grown kids.  After delivering her baby, she said her motherly instinct kicked in right a way and her age just was not a factor (except to the doctors who, when finding out her age, automatically assumed she had donor eggs!)

The article also mentions a few other women who had natural pregnancies in their 50's including one at 59 and one at 55!  Researchers from Israel’s Hadassah University Hospital reported at a major European fertility conference that there may be a genetic combination in some women which can  slow aging of the ovaries and protect against cellular damage making older age pregnancies more likely.

from: dailymail

Monday, February 16, 2015


Many couples who have trouble getting pregnant receive a diagnosis of unexplained infertility.  However, after undergoing numerous tests, their fertility clinic can't seem to find anything wrong.  The problem could in in the sperm.  Up until now, sperm have been examined under the microscope for volume, motility, morphology etc.  However a new test has become available that will actually look at the DNA of the sperm and many previously undetectable problem can be identified.
The test is called "Spermcomet" and it may help get to the bottom of "unexplained infertility"


... the SpermComet test, developed by leading fertility doctor Professor Sheena Lewis, checks for tiny tears and breaks in sperm’s DNA.
Sperm with damage to their genetic material are less likely to make a woman pregnant and if a woman does conceive, she is more likely to miscarry.
The test uses chemicals to ‘relax’ the tightly coiled strands of DNA in each individual sperm and then uses an electric field to separate them out.
Intact DNA bunches together and shines brightly, like the head of a comet, while broken material fans out and gives off a weaker glow.
By looking at the length of the tail of damaged DNA, the scientists can tell how badly affected a man’s sperm is.


Saturday, February 14, 2015


Pregnancy Over 40, Fertility Over 40 Flowers May Help You Get Pregnant

Valentine's day may not be as hard for those trying to conceive as some other holidays. It seems this day is more about celebrating your relationship rather than your offspring.
Let's face it, you have to have two to tango as they say and Valentine's day seems to bring couples closer together. Valentine's day and flowers seem to go hand in hand. Here is an article about flower remedies for fertility:


"Flower Remedies that Improve Your Chances of Getting Pregnant
Some of the most helpful flower remedies when getting pregnant are:

She Oak: she oak reduces stress caused by fertility issues and improves hormonal imblances
Noni: fosters feeling of nurturing and caring and reduces negative feelings
White Chestnut: also promotes positive thinking
Vervain: a relaxing flower remedy that calms feelings of anxiety and hypertension, which can impede fertility
Wisteria: promotes feelings of sensuality in the body and promotes calmness
Aspen: aspen helps reduce feelings of anticipation and anxiety, thereby reducing your levels of stress and helping to promote better overall reproductive health which increases your fertility
White Chestnut: another flower remedy helpful in getting pregnant, white chestnut reduces tension, stress and anxiety. Helpful in promoting mental health, white chestnut is particularly helpful in reducing feelings of bitterness and frustration which women who have difficulty getting pregnant often experience in their journey towards pregnancy"


Thursday, February 12, 2015


If you keep hearing about women and couples getting pregnant naturally after IVF, there may be a good reason why.  One third of couples who have a child through IVF get pregnant naturally for a subsequent pregnancy.  Why is this happening?  There are a number of reasons that could be behind these numbers.  First, IVF technology is constantly improving and everyone seems to be willing to jump into the procedure because of higher success rates when many of these couples would conceive naturally if given time.  If a couple has unexplained infertility (as I did), that doesn't necessarily mean they can't get pregnant, it just means that they haven't got pregnant YET.  Sometimes small changes in lifestyle, stress, body weight, diet, sleep patterns etc. can tip the odds in their favor.


In some previous blog posts, and from my own experience, I have mentioned something called "hormonal hangover".  This is when the drugs from IVF stay in your system and can not only cause problems if you do get pregnant, but they can throw the delicate balance of your natural hormones out of whack.  It makes me sad and a little angry to think about how much time, money and physical pain I endured needlessly with fertility treatments.  I believe these treatments actually kept me from getting pregnant naturally.  One of my IVF cycles led to an ectopic pregnancy where one of my tubes had to be removed (ectopic pregnancies are more common with IVF) and this not only decreased my chances of getting pregnant when I was ovulating on that side, but it also led to emergency surgery, and time lost when trying to conceive.

Australian and New Zealand Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology

Tuesday, February 10, 2015


If you have been reading my blogs and website, you know that I constantly try to paint the REAL picture of how it is possible to get pregnant at older ages naturally.  I have been researching this for years and what I do know is that the media loves to present the "doom and gloom" picture rather than looking at the glass half full.  In the words of a a friend and science teacher:  "the glass is always half full"....of course she was talking about the other half being full of air, and I am talking about the media being full of HOT air!

I love this article that presents some widely reported statistics and how they scare women needlessly:


The widely cited statistic that one in three women ages 35 to 39 will not be pregnant after a year of trying, for instance, is based on an article published in 2004 in the journal Human Reproduction. Rarely mentioned is the source of the data: French birth records from 1670 to 1830. The chance of remaining childless—30 percent—was also calculated based on historical populations.
In other words, millions of women are being told when to get pregnant based on statistics from a time before electricity, antibiotics, or fertility treatment. Most people assume these numbers are based on large, well-conducted studies of modern women, but they are not. When I mention this to friends and associates, by far the most common reaction is: “No … No way. Really?” 

Sunday, February 08, 2015


It's no secret that your thyroid is related to proper body temperature regulation and hormone regulation.  If you do happen to get pregnant, thyroid irregularities can lead to miscarriage and pregnancy complications.  Signs that you may have thyroid problems include:
  •  Irregular Cycles
  • Anovulatory cycles (this could be identified by skipping periods although you can still have a period even if you don't ovulate)
  •  High prolactin levels
  • Estrogen dominance
  • Progesterone deficiency
  • Increase in body hair
  • Heavy periods
So, are there natural ways to help your thyroid? 

Friday, February 06, 2015


Even though I'm an advocate of getting pregnant naturally, even I was surprised to hear that babies born through IVF have five times the risk of complications such as early infant death, stillbirth and prematurity. What is even more surprising is that the figures excluded women with multiple births.  One researcher who previously link IVF with a higher incidence of birth defects described something called "hormonal hangover" which was his way of describing how fertility drugs can stay in a woman's system and affect the uterus and the placenta.


According to the article:
"Professor Davies also warned that there is an ‘urgent need’ to track the long-term health of babies born through IVF.
He added: ‘It is appropriate that we are informed of the risks associated with the therapy and the source of that risk, so we can make informed decisions.’
Around 50,000 women in the UK have IVF each year leading to 17,000 births. Dr Geeta Nargund, medical director of the London Create fertility clinic, said doctors should make IVF ‘as safe as possible’ by not using high doses of drugs."

from: dailymail

Wednesday, February 04, 2015


How can probiotics maintain vaginal balance?

So what are probiotics?  Whether you realize it or not, our bodies are hosts to many organisms, most of which are beneficial.  The surface tissues like skin and mucous tissues have what we call "normal flora" which are bacteria that are normally found in the human body and help with everything from our immune response, protection from infection, to digestion and maintaining a normal vaginal pH (acidic vs. alkaline).
So how can probiotics help your vaginal pH and your overall fertility? They can help repopulate your body with the normal bacteria to keep the balance...


Monday, February 02, 2015


Pregnancy Over 40, Trying To Conceive Over 40, A Question Of Faith

I said many prayers on the road to parenthood, and I must admit, for many years, none of them were answered.
In hindsight, I do see that everything worked out for the best, but six years of infertility, recurrent miscarriage, and endless waiting can test even the strongest of faith. I have many readers from all over the world who come from different cultures and religions. For anyone interested, here is an article from a Jewish site which has good advice for anyone. Read more:

Relinquishing the illusion of control and placing ourselves in God's hands speaks to our understanding that He alone runs the world. Implicit in that understanding is that He does so from a vantage point of knowing the broader picture and, hence, what ultimately is in our best interest. The human perspective, informed and knowledgeable as it might be, is at best, limited in its scope.


This posture of faith can provide a sense of inner peace which gives us the wherewithal to embrace and celebrate the existing opportunities for joy in our life. The absence of perspective robs us of the present, the here and now. We become so preoccupied with what we desire for our future and what has eluded us in the past that the opportunities for the "now" are missed and forfeited. It is truly sad that with so much to enjoy in our lives we become totally oblivious to the myriad of blessing that surround us, i.e. a loving spouse, parents, health, the beauty of the world around us, the gift of friendships, etc. Clearly, this is not intended to marginalize the admirable desire and effort to have children. God willing, you and your wife will yet be successful in your attempts, but life must be fully embraced in the moment, quite apart from what tomorrow will bring. 

Friday, January 30, 2015


Many women who are trying to conceive are given Clomid (Clomifene or clomiphene) for the first round of treatment.  The drug is typically taken for 5 days and is started around the 5th day of your menstrual cycle.  It works by stimulating the pituitary gland to make reproductive hormones to stimulate ovulation.  When I was trying to conceive, we tried Clomid without any other interventions for a number of cycles.  When that didn't work, we tried Clomid along with inseminations.  We did not get pregnant.  At that time, I was not aware of the research about how Clomid can actually hurt your chances of getting pregnant because of its affect on your cervical mucus.....


Wednesday, January 28, 2015


This isn't groundbreaking research, but it certainly is worth repeating...a recent study showed that women can regulate their cycles with therapy to reduce stress.  The part of the article that I could relate to was that these "go getter" women look very "pulled together" but their self worth depends on achievement.  That was me back when I worked in the corporate pressure cooker.  If you would have asked me if I was stressed out...I would have said "no".  When I finally left my job, I looked back at my day to day existence and I couldn't believe how crazy my life really was!


From the article:

The therapy was designed to give women a better sense of perspective and improved self-worth to help cut stress levels. But Professor Berga said it did not involve telling women to 'pull themselves together'.
'This population actually looks very well pulled together,' she said. 'They don't report stress. They say everything is just fine. It may be the fact that the people who say everything is fine are the most stressed.
'They have unrealistic attitudes about themselves and others and think they can get more done in the day than is realistic, and their sense of worth depends on achievement.'
'We know that lifestyle factors can influence the menstrual cycle'
Twenty weeks later the researchers found 80 per cent of those given therapy had started ovulating again compared with 25 per cent in the other group. Two months later two of the women became pregnant.
Professor Berga said that although the study involved women whose monthly cycle had stopped, the findings may apply to other women who have fertility problems which are harder to discover because they still menstruate.

Monday, January 26, 2015


I heard about something called "The Law of Attraction" about 20 years ago. Since then, I always try to take responsibility for my thoughts and my actions because what I put out "there" directly affects what comes back to me. "The Secret" brought this whole concept mainstream recently. Here is an article that discusses not only the Law of Attraction, but it also talks about how to "allow" what you what into your life:

Allowing and the Law of Attraction
By Wendy Betterini

As we learn more about using the Law of Attraction consciously in our lives, we become masters at visualizing, affirming, and attracting what we desire. We learn how to infuse our desires with emotion and power, we learn how to raise our vibrations through joyful thoughts and align ourselves more fully with the circumstances we want to bring about.

However, most of us forget one crucial step in the process: allowing. Allowing is a multi-faceted phase in the creation process, and it can be confusing for those of us who haven't had much exposure to the concepts.

In generations past, hard work was a way of life. In some cases, it was the ONLY way of life. Like many of you, I come from a long line of hard workers: Maine lobstermen and fishermen, lighthouse keepers, factory workers, seamstresses, midwives, housekeepers, and public servants. My ancestors were proud of their ability to roll up their sleeves and put in a hard day's work to keep food on the table and clothing on their children's backs. Hard work was simply a fact of life, not something to be resented, just something that must be done, like breathing or sleeping when the sun went down.


Through the examples of my forebears, I was taught that nothing comes freely in life. If I want something, it's up to me to put my nose to the grindstone and work for it. This isn't a bad thing, and I don't want to diminish the accomplishments of those who paved the way for us.

However, the more deeply we delve into Law of Attraction principles, the more we realize that there is another way. Some would call it a better way, but let us see it simply as an alternate path to a similar destination. What is this alternate path? ALLOWING.

As we just covered, action is needed at the beginning stages of conscious creation. We know we need to visualize our desires, affirm our belief in a new reality, raise our vibrations (thoughts) and come into alignment with the end result so it can manifest in our lives. What most of us do then is take further action to encourage our new circumstances to form physically. We might work harder to make more money, or we might join a dating service to meet the partner of our dreams. There is nothing wrong with these actions, except the belief that we need to "do" anything to make our desires manifest.

That's where allowing comes in. What if, after we've visualized, affirmed, and expressed our desires to the universe, we simply let go? What happens then? Most of us are under the impression that nothing would happen. Ah, but we can ALLOW the universe to manifest exactly what we desire. That's the beauty of the Law of Attraction. We don't HAVE to make things happen, we can simply allow the universe to deliver our desires fully formed and neatly wrapped in a beautiful package with a bow on top.

So how do we allow? There are three key parts to allowing:

1) Let go of the "how." This seems to contradict the creation process, because isn't the whole point to control the outcome? It may seem so at the beginning, but as most of us go along, we eventually realize that the more we try to control the outcome, the less circumstances seem to work in our favor. By consciously letting go of HOW the universe will manifest our wishes, we affirm that our desired outcome is already a done deal. There's no need to beg, manipulate, or control the situation because it already exists in perfect form. We simply need to let go and trust that the universe will deliver it to us in the most beautiful and beneficial way possible.

2) Let go of the "when." This is one of the most difficult things to do because we want what we want right NOW. We don't want to wait for divine timing or anything else. Unfortunately, our very impatience can delay the process. Why? Because by wanting it right now, we place emphasis on the "wanting." Remember, we create what we focus on the most! If we focus on wanting, we create more want. By affirming that our desires will manifest at exactly the right time, we automatically focus more on trust and faith. We believe that our deepest heart's desires are on their way to us, and guess what happens? They come more quickly.

3) Appreciate. It can be hard to appreciate what we have when we're not happy with our lives, but once again, it's all about what we focus on and what we attract. The more appreciative we can be about our existing circumstances, the more we will attract things to appreciate. If you have to, start with something small and obvious. Each morning when you awake, say something like, "I appreciate the opportunity to live another day. I appreciate the bed I slept in all night. I'm grateful that I can take a hot shower and put on clean clothes today." As you go about your day, take a moment to appreciate everything you can, no matter how small and insignificant it may seem. Over time, this puts you in a gratitude mindset and will begin to attract more and more things to appreciate - and more often than not, those things continue to get bigger and bigger the more you keep up with this practice.

So, does this mean that we never have to work hard again? We can just sit back and "allow" the universe to give us everything we want? Yes, and no. There is one more important point that ties in to the concept of allowing, and that is taking inspired action. Occasionally, after we have expressed our desires to the universe and we've begun "allowing" them into our lives, the universe will provide a way for US to bring about what we want, rather than simply plopping it into our laps fully formed.

In this case, we will usually feel a nudge in a certain direction. We might be inspired to start a business, buy a lottery ticket, attend a lecture, read a particular book, or any number of other actions. If we act immediately on these nudges, circumstances usually shift and opportunities appear. These opportunities usually create an opening that can help us to manifest our desires simply and easily, and often quickly.

However, remember that inspired action shouldn't be painful or difficult. It should feel wonderful and inspiring. You will feel excited about it, and eager to do it. That's how you can tell whether you are being inspired to take a particular action, rather than feeling like you "have to" do it in order to get what you want.

Simply let go, relax, and allow the creation process to unfold exactly as it will. If you feel inspired to act, act. If not, just trust that the universe has your highest good in mind. Believe that, and let it guide your every step!

Wendy Betterini is a freelance writer specializing in self-improvement and personal development concepts. Visit her website, for free articles on positive thinking, goal-setting, self-esteem, personal growth, and more.

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Saturday, January 24, 2015


How Maca Can Help You Conceive

I've heard on and off about a plant called "maca".  Maca is related to the radish and has ingredients like phytonutrients, amino acids, vitamins and fatty acids.  It is a cruciferous vegetable (like cabbage) which have endless health benefits.  Maca is believed to support your adrenal glands and balance hormones in both in and women.
Read more:

...Today, maca's popularity is very much on the increase, as people discover that the plant really does boost libido, sexual function and overall energy. Acreage in Peru dedicated to Maca cultivation is increasing every year to meet demand, and a number of scientists have turned their attention to the properties of the root. In Peru, maca is used by men and by women who want to put more fire into their sex lives. And in the U.S., Europe and Japan, dietary supplements containing maca are gaining ardent devotees...


...Arizona physician Gary Gordon, M.D., former president of the American College for Advancement in Medicine, is also a maca supporter. "We all hear rumors about various products like maca. But using this Peruvian root myself, I personally experienced a significant improvement in erectile tissue response. I call it nature's answer to Viagra.

What I see in maca is a means of normalizing our steroid hormones like testosterone, progesterone and estrogen. Therefore it has the facility to forestall the hormonal changes of aging. It acts on men to restore them to a healthy functional status in which they experience a more active libido."...


Thursday, January 22, 2015


You may never have heard of inositol but it is sometime classified as one of the B vitamins, but  it is naturally found in cell membranes.  Vegetables and fruits that are sources of  inositol are cabbage, beans, legumes, seeds, nuts, cantaloupe, bananas, raisins, oranges and other citrus fruits, among many others.  Inositol has been found to help with ovulation in some studies.  It is also thought to be very beneficial to women with PCOS.


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