Trying To Conceive and Independence DayRemember those old re-runs of a program called "Love American Style" (or in my case you saw them the first time around)?
Fireworks represented the love and infatuation associated with your relationship and/or marriage. Well, no matter how good your relationship is, when you're trying to conceive, every aspect of your life revolves around ovulation. Intercourse can become a total chore and no, there are absolutely no fireworks. I remember a few years on independence day, I was ovulating and we could hear our neighbors shooting off firecrakers--there we were trying to "get the job done". UGGGGHHHH...not pleasant memories at all.
Independence day is another one of those family oriented holidays. All you see around you are families packing up the car to go watch fireworks displays, kid-oriented events, BBQ's etc. It's another holiday where you stick out like a sore thumb. I recall going to a function with my husband's sister and their kids. We met a few of their friends and then the bomb dropped. One of their friends (who was there with his four kids) says to me..."I'll bet you guys have a bunch of kids right?" I was so taken off guard...he immediately sensed me squirming as I said sheepishly..."Uh no, we don't have any". End of conversation.
After that, we decided to have our own way of enjoying the holiday. We stayed away from BBQ's and had a nice dinner out. Hey, whatever works. I'm not saying you shouldn't join in (because we did that too), but you should do whatever helps you deal with the situation at the time.
So, whatever you do this holiday, please enjoy it safely and don't be afraid to go out and have some fun - even if it's not in the traditional way.